Α trick that can direct your brain into positive thinking. It’s fun and easy and it will brighten up your mood.
This method is based on a system developed by Noah St. John that is called “afformations”. He presented the positive affirmations used until recently in the form of questions. He describes them as reality forming questions. They stimulate the subconscious mind towards a different way of perceiving reality, that is more beneficial for us.
When we are sad or unlucky in life we tend to think thoughts like:
“why me?”, “why everything bad happens to me?”, “why am I so unlucky?”
You will notice that when you ask yourself this type of questions your mind rushes to answer them and to validate them with information from your past experiences. You will remember almost automatically the times you have been unlucky and that unpleasant things happened to you. We realized that our mind has this amazing ability to confirm the suggestions of these questions.
Another observation that led to the development of this method was that it took very long for positive affirmations to work. You had to repeat them as a mantra or write them many times over a period of days or weeks before they became part of your belief system. Our subconscious mind has the tendency to reject them. For example, when one was feeling rejected and was trying to develop self-esteem, he would use an affirmation like “I love and accept myself exactly as I am”. Doing this his subconscious mind would rush to automatically think thoughts like ” that is not true” or “you don’t love yourself when you don’t exercise” or other similar thoughts that would sabotage him in believing his much needed affirmation.
Those two pieces of valuable observations combined together led to the development of the “afformations”. You can now change your affirmation into a question that considers the affirmation true and asks you why is it true?
This way you trick your mind into giving you information that validates your positive affirmation. It also sounds a little funny which gives you extra positive feelings when you do it!
Here is a list of such questions to use as a guide:
- Why do I feel safe with all people?
- Why do I feel so safe?
- Why do I deserve love and respect exactly as I am?
- Why others deserve my love and respect exactly as they are?
- Why do I feel free to be myself?
- Why do I have understanding for other people’s behavior?
- Why do I forgive?
- Why am I so comfortable with myself and with others?
- Why I can love myself as I am?
- Why is it good, safe and right to love myself as I am?
- Why is it good, safe and right to love others as they are?
- Why is it good, safe and right to feel safe and relaxed?
- Why is it good, safe and right to enjoy life?
- Why am I free from my need of other people’s approval?
- Why do I see life as easy and safe?
- Why do I deserve to succeed in all of my goals?
- Why do I deserve to have everything I need to be happy?
- Why do others deserve my love and respect?
- Why do I deserve love and respect from others?
- Why do I accept my weaknesses and my mistakes?
- Why is it safe and good to accept my weaknesses and my mistakes?
- Why is it safe and good to accept other people’s weaknesses and mistakes?
- Why am I so confident?
- Why do I believe in my ability to succeed?
- Why am I not like my father/mother/someone else?
- Why is it wise and clever to let go of the past and to accept it as perfect for my personal development and the development of others?
- Why is it wise and clever to let go of the future and to have faith that it will bring exactly what I and other people need for our spiritual development?
- Why am I free from the illusion that I am responsible for other people’s reality?
- Why am I free from the illusion that other people are responsible for my reality?
- Why do I feel strong enough to face anything that might come along in my life?
- Why do I trust that my children and my loved ones have the strength to deal successfully with anything that might happen in their lives?
- Why am I so certain that we all have an inner guidance that helps us take decisions in our lives?
- Why do I trust people?
- Why do I trust myself?
- Why do I trust life /and God?
- Why am I always free to do what I like to do?
- Why am I so certain about my eternal nature?
- Why am I so certain about the eternal nature of my loved ones?
- Why do I believe that there is wisdom and justice in everything that happens?
- Why do I see divine love even in the difficult times in my life?
- Why do I take absolute responsibility for my life and my feelings?
- Why do I let others take absolute responsibility for their lives and their feelings?
- Why am I so certain that my self worth is irrelevant with how I look?
- Why am I so certain that my self worth is irrelevant to the opinion and the behavior of others?
- Why am I so certain that my self worth is irrelevant to the outcome of my efforts?
- Why am I so certain that my self worth is irrelevant to comparing myself with others?
These are only a few possible questions you may use. You can develop your own questions, personalized to your own needs and goals in life. They may set you free from your old dysfunctional beliefs.
Have fun trying this new “trick” and let me know if you found it helpful!
Source: personal notes from seminar by Robert Elias Najemy
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